Failure Leads to Success
What makes us successful is how we deal with failure, mistakes, and let-downs. If we never failed, we would never learn, and so we must know that it is OK to try and to fail.
Think of all the great quotes about failure, like "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" (Alfred Lord Tennyson). The successful ones that first had bankruptcy, the stories (and quotes) are endless. So why do we fear failure, when it only pushes us forward?
The answer to this leads back to our ego and our desire to always be right.
I remember, when I was a child, not putting my hand up to answer a question in school for fear that I may be incorrect, and then feel embarressed for answering incorrectly.Yet when someone else answered the question with the same answer that I would have given, I got mad at myself for not BELIEVING enough in myself to answer the question.
So, even at a young age we realize when we do and do not have enough belief in ourselves. It is important to teach not only our kids, but ourselves that failure is in direct correlation to trying!
To put it even more into perspective, if you were a scientist, there is no way that you would be able to create your desired outcome on your first try. Think of Thomas Edison, The Wright Brothers, and Albert Einstein. Do you think the light bulb, the first flying machine, or Einstein's intellectual achievements all came on the first try?
Wayne Gretzky's famous quote "We miss 100% of the shots we never take." is a great reminder, that you have to set the fear of failure behind and move towards your goals. Even if you fall flat on your face, you are still falling forwards.
So here are your first steps to ensure you overcome this fear of failure:
- Determine your goal, and what could possibly stand in your way of failing to achieve these goals.
When you identify possible road blocks, you become prepared for how you can deal with the road blocks when they arrive.
- Ask yourself, "What has the fear of failure prevented me from doing in the past?"
Did this fear of failure leave regret that you never did what you wanted? Identify this and be sure that you don't let the fear of failure happen again! What was it that stopped you, is there a root cause, a particular person, or a past experience that is stopping you still from moving forward?
- Dream about WHAT IF it works.
Take the time to think about how great it would feel if you set your fear aside, and strived towards your goals—and you finally made it! WOW, how does that feel? Awesome. And it gives you courage to keep striving for more!
- Take small steps to start.
Our goals can be grandiose at times. What is the first step to reaching that huge goal that you can start with? And when you make it, be sure to celebrate and keep moving forward, one small goal at a time that will take you to your large goal. This can also mean breaking it down. If you have a 5 year goal to build your business to a point that allows you to pay for all the household expenses, and have free time, and money for holidays, then perhaps your first step is breaking down what that really looks like. If you don't make it in 5 years, but you still made more money than when you started, guess what? You are still moving forward. If the planned 5 years actually takes you 10 years to get there, well, the time is going to pass anyways, and aren't you still a success?
Keep your eye on the prize, believe in yourself and your dreams, and move out of your comfort zone. Don't be afraid to fail—it shows that you are at least working on making your dreams a reality.